The nuance of not asking “What if”?

There may be times when you look back at your life wishing you could change what has happened. You believe if you could only go back in time you would manage a relationship differently, put more effort into the job to get a promotion that never manifested, or speak your mind to someone who hurt you. Remember that what you focus on becomes your reality. If you constantly focus on the past then you believe that is the only method for you to achieve success. Focusing on the past demonstrates your belief the future does not hold the success you hope to acquire. By looking back and wanting to change your past you acknowledge to God and the Universe that the future cannot be better than your past. As always, you manifest what you believe.

Some years ago I interviewed with a search firm on behalf of a large company. The job seemed like a perfect fit, as I had years of experience not only in the position they sought, but also in the same industry. Unfortunately, the interview process never went beyond the search firm. The company hired the first person they interviewed! This upset me for several months. It’s also worth noting no interviews came my way while I lamented the lost chance. During this period I spent a lot of time examining my actions and beliefs and lamenting an opportunity lost. Finally I determined not to look back and reminded myself that I needed to move past the loss. I had to trust that other opportunities would come along. Within one week I was referred to a representative of another search firm, who was excited because they had been looking for someone with just my experience including more expanded role and responsibility.

It is always important to remember that you are here in this lifetime to learn, to experience and to explore. And that means seeing and experiencing events from both sides. No matter what the required learning is, you will create that opportunity for you in your life. The nuance is that consequently, if you believe you could go back and time and turn left instead of right, chose one relationship over another, choose one job over another, one career over another or where to live over another, you would find you would still encounter the same experiences giving you the opportunity to address those key beliefs. The experiences may not be identical to that which you experience now, but they will take on the same form bringing the same issues in front of you. You may know someone who often changes jobs, complaining that it’s always his or her boss that is the problem. No amount of changing jobs will ever stop the issue arising. After all, the common denominator of all of these events in your life is you. After all, It Was YOU, All Along….