At this time of year those looking for new relationships and even those who are in a relationship ask themselves if they have found or will find their soul mate. The allure and fascination of a relationship with our unique soul mate, someone who is here on Earth just for us, creates excitement and drives us to find this special someone.
And yet, many relationships are ended because of irreconcilable differences, or the belief that the other person in the relationship did not turn out to be this much sought after soul mate. The problem is the nuance and perception of what actually is a soul mate creates an unrealistic expectation and burden placed on this potential soul mate.
The prevailing concept of a soul mate involves finding someone who is identical to us. (My wife would agree the world does not need an identical version of Gary in the world). We think of someone who is supportive, caring, loves the same activities we do and who thinks and believes as we do. When the other person in the relationship does not always agree with us, is not totally supportive of everything we do, and doesnot fill the gaps in our own personality we then determine this person is not our soul mate. And we blame this other person for the failure of the relationship. Although it is valuable to experience a relationship with someone who has very similar interests and beliefs as yours, those similarities are not the key attributes of a soul mate.
Our mission in this lifetime is to experience the fullness of everything that life has to offer. Included in this experience is the continual drive to learn and grow in order to become all that we can be. The nuance of a soul mate is to help us become the best person we can be. For us to become the most unique, productive, and abundant person we can be allows us to positively impact the lives of those we encounter. Our soul mate helps us become that person. How? Our soul mate is here to mirror our beliefs, to help us push past our fears and drive us on our path of learning and growth.
My wife and I constantly challenge each other in this approach. There is no desire to “win” an argument; rather it is to help each other see ourselves more clearly to confront our inner fears and discover our inner strength to achieve any goal we desire. In caring for each other there are times we are supportive and times when we push and mirror each other to see an inner fear or negative belief we need to address. Pushing ourselves is not always easy, but always extremely rewarding. We safely confront our inner fears and open our heart and mind with that special person with whom we can be intimate. The nuance is our soul mate allows us to be ourselves in an environment where we can become all we planned for when we began this journey at birth.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Knowing the fundamentals of the law of attraction is important to achieve your goals, but understanding the nuances is mandatory.
